Rate My Roster — AI Wingman Rates the Guys You're Talking To

Not sure which guys are actually worth your time? Rate My Roster by DearHim lets you list up to five guys you're currently talking to, describe each situation briefly, and get an instant, honest verdict from your AI Wingman. No guessing, no sugarcoating. Just a clear read on who deserves your energy.

The tool is completely free for up to three guys. No account required. Add a name, describe the situation in a few sentences, and optionally note how long you've been talking. Wingman analyzes the behavioral signals in what you described and returns a verdict for each guy — Worth It, Drop Him, Watch Closely, or Needs More Data.

How Rate My Roster Works

You add the guys you're currently talking to, describe the situation briefly, and optionally note how long you've been talking. Your AI Wingman analyzes each one and tells you exactly who deserves your energy. The whole process takes under two minutes and gives you a clearer picture than weeks of second-guessing.

Each entry gets a Verdict, a full Read that explains the behavioral pattern behind the verdict, and a set of Standards Flags — named patterns like Breadcrumbing, Inconsistent Effort, or Making Real Plans. These are not just labels; they are specific behaviors Wingman identified in what you described.

Real Examples — What Rate My Roster Looks Like in Practice

Here are three real situations and how Wingman calls them. Use these to understand the kind of read you will get when you rate the guys in your roster.

Jake — Drop Him

Situation: “Texts me every day but won't make plans. Says he's busy but somehow always has time to watch TV shows.”

Verdict: Drop Him. Jake is performing interest without investing in it. Daily texts with no plans is a comfort pattern, not pursuit. He is keeping you available while deciding if he wants more.

Marcus — Worth It

Situation: “We've been talking for two months. He's consistent, makes plans, and actually shows up when he says he will.”

Verdict: Worth It. Two months of consistent behavior is real data. Marcus is not just saying the right things — he is doing them. That is the baseline for someone worth your energy.

Tyler — Watch Closely

Situation: “Hot and cold. Great week, then disappears for days. Always has an excuse but always comes back.”

Verdict: Watch Closely. Tyler's inconsistency is not random — it is a pattern. The disappearing keeps you uncertain and the returns keep you invested. Watch whether he gets more consistent, not just more apologetic.

What the Verdicts Mean

Worth It means this guy is showing up and making an effort. His behavior signals genuine interest and he is acting like someone who wants to be in your life. Drop Him means the patterns are clear — continuing to invest emotionally in this person is wasting your time and energy. The signs are not subtle. Watch Closely means there is potential here but something needs to shift. He gets a window, not a free pass — watch whether the behavior changes. Needs More Data means there is not enough context yet to make a confident call, but the situation is worth monitoring.

What Are Standards Flags

Specific behavioral patterns Wingman identifies — things like “Breadcrumbing,” “Avoidant attachment,” “Inconsistent effort,” or “Making real plans.” These help you name what you're actually observing instead of describing a feeling you can't quite articulate. Once you can name the pattern, it is much harder to talk yourself out of what you already know.

Why Your Standards Matter

You have limited time and emotional energy. Rating your roster helps you see the big picture — not just how one guy makes you feel, but how the whole group stacks up. Most women find that once they see all their guys rated side by side, the answer becomes obvious. The one you were most anxious about is usually not the one with the highest reading. The one you were making excuses for is usually the clearest Drop Him.

Your standards are not about being picky. They are about being honest with yourself about what consistent, genuine interest actually looks like versus what you have been settling for. Wingman does not tell you what to want — he tells you what is actually happening. What you do with that information is up to you.

Free and Pro Features

Rate My Roster is completely free for up to three guys. You get all four verdicts, a full read for the first guy, and a two-line preview for the rest, plus a summary of your whole roster. No account required.

Upgrade to Pro to rate up to five guys at once, see full reads and standards flags for every entry, and save your roster directly to your DearHim account where Wingman can track patterns over time. Pro also keeps ratings open so you can re-rate as the situation evolves.

Whether you are in the early stages of dating multiple people or trying to decide who deserves more of your time and energy, Rate My Roster gives you a fast, honest read on where each guy actually stands. No account required to get started.